I really need to figure this out… Please send me tips. I have 2 very talkative, animated teenagers, who want to lay on my bed and chat away, and tell me everything they are wondering about, and ask permission for things that require long discussions. It would be positively lovely, and I would be in total heaven, if it didn’t put me in utter HELL.
I know listening to our teenagers is the most important parenting job at this time in their lives. My time with them in the house is dwindling down; I do, really do, want to know what is going on in their lives and want to ask the right questions of them. And they don’t talk much in the mornings, when my engines are totally fired up and turned onto high velocity.
Nope. Their little switch flips On about 18 minutes after mine has switched Off.
They seem to especially want to talk to me after 9 pm. They have a lot to say, and they can’t wait to tell me more. At 10:47 pm. I am cross-eyed with fatigue, I don’t know what they are talking about, and barely recognize their faces, much less comprehend what they are saying or have any rational answers.
It is the most horrible agony, to have a teenager ready and wanting to spill her soul to me, to tell me aobut his latest friendship turmoil, and I can only think “Oh my God, how do I get these people away from me?”
Last night, I fell to begging them “PLEASE, just go to bed. I cannot talk any longer to you.” He had been in the middle of a long explanation of why he needed to get his ears pierced today. It had to be TODAY. He had his earrings picked out, the place to do it, and all I had to do was agree (and cough up the funding). She was talking about her vision of new friendships in middle school, and how some girls did this, and others did that.
These are important topics. I could not care less. It was after 9 pm.
I can’t wait for school to start, I don’t care about their learning and growing there. I just want them to be as tired as me!