Yep, a rough one! But I am here to tell you that it is so worth it!!!
I have had and lost more relationships than I want to count. But when I finally decided to put on my big girl pants and state that my children are my priority up front, early on, the man responded with “Of course, I respect you for that”. What a relief, I had a huge boulder lifted from my shoulders, because I knew I could follow my priorities rather than his. In previous relationships, I really had thought that I needed to focus on pleasing the man, on being who he wanted me to be, rather than who I wanted to be… Hmmm, pretty messed up, huh?
And 6 months down the line, dating happily- when he asked me to sideline my kids’ needs for his, it really didn’t take much of a nudge from me for him to remember HIS statement to me… (that my children come first, until they are in college)