Today I am not asking you to be Wonder Woman, we all learned that doing everything for everyone is a crock of shit that drives us to day-drink. So let’s not try to do everything in a day and be everything to everyone, fixing all problems in one day.
It is easy to feel like we need to fix everything (and there is so much these days to clarify and fix in our world!). And easy to feel like we are the only ones to do the work. But what if we leave behind the overwhelm and just focus on one thing at a time?
Today at breakfast time, stand up like Lynda Carter‘s Wonder Woman–with her hands on her hips and calm stare at the world of chaos in front of her. That Wonder Woman pose actually releases more testosterone (the confidence-building hormone) to your bloodstream if you stand that way for 30 or more seconds And while you are at it, hold your chin up, belly in, and nod your head. These also add confidence and sends signals to others to agree with us. Feel free to review Gal Gadot too, she kicks ass as today’s Wonder Woman (she just doesn’t do “the stance” Lynda did so often).
We aren’t faking it until we make it. Confidence is not about putting on an act. It is about remembering who we are and the BS we have already lived through and goals we accomplished. You have dealt with awful BS that you didn’t think you could stand before, but came through with flying colors. You will do it again. Start with one small brave thing today and more confidence will flow. You got this! (I used to do this stance in bathroom stalls at the office before job interviews and performance reviews, after harsh meetings, before harsh meetings, before talking to the slick engineer who knew everything, etc.)
Let’s start our day calm and confident. Ignore the abso-fuckinglutely crazy news cycle for a few hours, set the social media rabbit (shit?)hole aside for a bit, and start the day with positive thoughts. Accumulate confidence that we are enough, and “the bad guys” (whomever or whatever they are) better watch out, because we have our shit together (at this moment anyway), we are enough, and we have secret wristbands that ricochet bullets away.
Kay and Shipman 2018. The Confidence Code. HarperCollins Publishers. New York, New York. 232 pages.
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